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Thursday, February 14, 2013

Back to Life, Back to Reality!

Whew! We jumped right back in to life and are coming up with our new 'normal'. Today Madi had preschool and I was supposed to help, so my mom took her and helped in my place (THANK YOU MOM!!). I was sad to miss the Valentine party, but it was nice that my mom could be there with Madi.

This day was full of adjustments, as I knew it would be, and I am sure we have many more to go!! Conner is just in love with Ramya and talks all day about how she is so adorable. I know this will change, but for now, she has him wrapped around his finger! If she says "come here", he comes. If she says "go get", he goes and gets what she wants. It's pretty cute. He did tell me today that having two sisters was hard work and that maybe we should have stuck with just one. I told him that he felt like that when we brought home from the hospital too. I assured him that slowly but surely, things would feel normal again. He wanted to konw how many bedtimes it would be until that happens, and I told him it's a wait-and-see kinda thing. He seemed ok with that. Ramya gave him a kiss today all on her own, and he was very excited!

Madi loves Ramya as well and thinks she is her little doll to play with. She tries to tell her what to do and is quite shocked when she doesn't listen. "Ramya, I'm funny, huh? I'm funny? Ramya, say yes. Ramya, say yes that I'm funny. Say yes!". She is learning to share her toys and clothes and is doing pretty well considering. The girls mostly get along well at this point. Madi tells Ramya that she loves her pretty often. She likes to pat her back and talk to her. It's very sweet. Madi was crying today in the car (something about how I forgot to tell her the sound the little 'e' makes), so Ramya gave her a doll to hold. It was very sweet.

Ramya is wanting to be held most of the day. It makes cleaning up and cooking a little tougher, but I know this is a good thing and important for our attachment, so I hold her! The tricky part is trying to get the girls in and out of the car by myself, since right now they both have to be carried. This is the same for in and out of the room/bathroom/etc.... I am getting down a routine of how to do it, and I know that this will continue to get easier, especially when they are both a little more independent with their mobility. Ramya is learning the art of "no". She is like a very sweet little toddler first learning how to say no. I am trying to patiently work on things with her. So far she loves eating boiled eggs, but not a whole lot else. I tried to have rice and things familiar to her, but mostly, she just wants eggs. Today she ate about 3 boiled eggs, corn, some chicken, and some green beans. She's not a very good eater at all (as in she eats very little), and she is so very skinny. She has no fat on her body at all. Her 3T pants (she is almost 6) barely stay around her tummy. I am trying to think of creative ways to fatten her up a bit and get more calories in her.

Today we had to venture out, though I was hoping to stay home. Madi had an appointment to go to wheelchair clinic for an adjustment to her wheelchair. I contemplated canceling it, but we waited about a month to get in to this one, and her wheelchair needed an adjustment very badly.  We loaded up and then once we were there Madi went in the wheelchair, Conner held my hand, Ramya went in the Ergo, and I managed to get them all in safely. Tami, Madi's PT, met us there and I am so glad she did. It turns out her wheelchair is too small and can't be adjusted correctly, so she is just getting a brand new one. She picked "toxic green" for the color, of course. She is very excited to be getting a new chair!

I'm beat and trying to ignore all of the things I have to do.  I still have some freezer meals left over that I had pre-made and am also looking forward to having some meals brought over by friends and loved ones (thank you Kim for setting that up for us!!!  If anyone wants a link, please let me know :)).  I know I need my rest so I am trying not to worry about the house being out-of-sorts.  I know it'll get there.  I picked up a bit today and worked on laundry, all one-handed.  It wasn't very efficient, but it worked.  I also have to start working on post-placement paperwork, which will take a bit of time.

That is it for now!  I know some days will be great and others will be hard, but God will get us through, just like He always does!  Please pray for a quick adjustment period and for an easy attachment.  I know it is not uncommon for things to get rocky when things settle a bit and kiddos start processing the past traumas and griefs they are feeling.  I am praying that this will be minimal and that God will give us the resources we need to get through. 


mc said...

It sounds like you are doing more than a fabulous job meeting all your kids's needs and setting realistic expectations. I love that you are holding Ramya so much. It will pay off big time in the long term!! :)

Tiffany said...

Will be keeping you all in my prayers!